Abuela, Abuela, Abuela

i tell you, living with this lady is a new experience everyday. since Lala & i have been staying with her, i have decided to get to know her a little better. i've been asking her questions about her youth, when she met my father's father {will explain as to why i don't say grandpa later}, how she ended up with her friend's man, her second marriage, her daughters & my dad & his sister that she left behind because she was unable to support them & their father dumping them on his sister & her husband.

my life as well as my family's life is a soap opera in its self. you may thinking i am being dramatic but if you read what i wrote above you will see that it's not & the sad part is that that is only the half of it. i haven't even mentioned the drama that is going on with my mother's side of the family in DR. everyone is fighting over my aunt's will & everyone wants to sell the properties that she has so that they can get the money. certain people shouldn't get shit cause they don't deserve it, what they do deserve is for my aunt to appear to them in their dream & whoop their ass. but that's my opinion as mommy says.

anyway back to my grandmother, love her to pieces but i have to wonder about the choices that she's made in life. i asked her this morning about why she never went back to get her 1st 2 kids from jackass. all she said was that time was really rough & that jackass said that if she didn't want to be with him then he didn't need to give her & her kids any money for support. so she left him as well as my dad, as for my father's sister-well she said she say him on day on the streets & cursed him out & he told her that if she wanted support for him she had to take him to court, she did & the judge gave him custody of their daughter. which in turn he sent his daughter to his sister's house for awhile & then to his aunt's to live permantly.

it sucks being in the middle of the drama knowing how everyone really feels about the next person & not being able to say/do anything. not my place to say anything & i learn that the hard way. i told my dad something that his sister said not thinking that i would get the reaction i got & left with the impression that that was the biggest mistake i had made. so for that reason alone i have decided to mind my business & just keep everyone's conversations to myself until i feel the time is right.

now as to my i will never call that jackass my grandfather. this moran used to live with us {mother, father, myself & older brother} back in the day. from the stories i have heard i was a bit of a pain in the ass bacause i would never stop crying & it drove him crazy {i was a few months old for Christ sake} anyway, one summer {1991} my dad took me & my brothers to DR for the summer. we went to jackass's house to meet the family because it had been some time since they last saw us. do you know that this moran had the nerve to say that he didn't know my dad had a daughter right in front of me {bastard}. the hurt was just all over my face & my dad just looked @ me like "it's going to be alright" then jackass wanted us to give him the blessing {spanish thing}. told him hell no & my dad was like "maureen" i just said hello & kept in moving.
the second encounter was about 3 yrs. my grandmother had passed away. so me, mommy & lala flew to DR for the services; my dad happended to be in DR @ the same time & wanted us to come visit for the weekend. so lala & i did, once again my dad took us to his father's house {this shit is funny} & he just looked @ us & asked my step-mother if i was her daughter. can u believe this son-of-a-bitch, my step-mother told him to look @ me real carefully & asked him to think. his answer, she must be your niece cause i have never seen her before. my dad just looked me cause i was laughing @ how stupid he was going to look once i told him. i told him no that his son was my father & that the little girl was my daughter. this bastard had the nerve to start saying "oh my god, i have a great-granddaughter..i never thought i would have seen the day." told him that he probably wouldn't because she is not his great-granddaughter, how can she be when you didn't even know you had a granddaughter. whatever..it's been a year since he passed i can't mourn/miss someone i never knew

Staying @ My Grandmother's

is starting to become really interesting really quickly..she has issues more then before but you just got to love her to pieces. monday night was the first night that we stayed over...first, I picked up Lala after work, then went home to shower, change, finish the load that was in the machine and then get my apartment in order {clothes were all over the hallway, due to laundry being done} and of course make sure Lala gets her room in order & pack her clothes for the next day. I was running around the house like a mad woman..finally, everything that needed to be done got done {except for the laundry} we left, jumped on the train to Abuela's house. when we get there she had the nerve to argue with me:

A:where were you? you were supposed to be here earlier. I could have died.
M: I was home & I told you that I was coming a little late because I had to stop by my house & do some things and you weren't going to die so stop it
A: I thought you said you were going to take care of me
M: I am, you see me here don't you. you better behave or I am calling your son {my dad-her son}
A: call him, he can't do anything to me. I'll beat you & your your father ass.
M: whatever, I'm calling my mother
A: call whoever you want, I'll whoop all of ya

after awhile, Lala has my grandmother watching Prison Break & explaining to her what happended before so she can understand why people are speaking spanish on Channel 5. It was the cutest thing cause my child actually knows what she's talking about. yes, I allow my child to watch Prison Break-I saw Scarface as a kid, with my dad when it on HBO. some people might not agree but whatever, we both enjoy the show. my grandmother fell asleep once it ended & we were still up watching television. I couldn't sleep @ all, with people calling me, IMing me, and me worried about my grandmother's health. I tossed & turned all night I finally got to sleep @ 5 in the morning. felt like shit in the morning & it showed which sucks.

Abuela

my Grandmother has been in the hospital since last week & she is ready to go home. Her social worker @ the hospital is trying to get her a home attendant that will be able to stay with her longer hours because she lives @ home alone. she has a weak heart & has been admitted to the hospital 4 times so far, each incident has happended around 10 pm or midnight. therefore, she needs someone who will be able to be there for her in case she has another bad night & can't breath. I have already spoke to her doctor & have told them that she needs an oxygen tank @ home but he's an ass & looks @ me like I don't know anything & I shouldn't be telling him about his job. what this asshole seems to not realize is that she is my grandmother.
my grandmother has been lucky because in each incident, someone was there with her @ home but my aunt & i are worried when no one can stay with her. my uncle is in town from DR but he is leaving town on monday & his wife won't be in ny for another two weeks. so lala & I will be staying with Abuela till my aunt comes to take care of her mother.

i haven't lived with my grandmother in years...so it will be interesting to see how things are once I stay there. I used to spend the whole summer over there & my father never understood why & to tell the truth neither have I. it's not like I was able to hang out or do whatever I wanted while I was over there. i was always in the house & only went out when my aunt's took me out to run errands, my grandmother never bothered me so I was always in the room reading, listening to music or watching television. what I do remember is always waiting for weekends, my aunt always went out on the weekends with her friends/boyfriend. watching her get ready for her nights were my highlights...I used to always say "when I am her age, I am going out & having fun like her". she would tell me where she was going, who she was meeting up with, what their plans were and I would dressed up while she was getting ready. putting on her jewerly & sometimes she put make-up on me..not a lot cause my grandmother would get pissed.

but my aunt has her own place now & has 2 daughters, so it's just gonna be me, Abuela & Lala..this should be interesting. I shall keep you posted on the madhouse....
my relationship with my grandmother is an interesting one, if you didn't know about the way we interact with one another you would think that she is a rude old lady & I was just mean to old folks. but she stays trying to play me & dis me, so I dish it all right back to her. my mother says that we have no respect for one another {she laughs when she says this to us} & my father thinks that we have a strange relationship but it works & i love her to pieces.

this was the conversation the night before in the hospital:

Me: Bendicion {Spanish Blessing ritual}

Abeula: Dios me la bendiga

Me: how u feel?

A: i am tired & want to go home

M: you can't go home yet cause they didn't kick you out yet. they are trying to extend your home attendants time, so you can have someone over in the night time as well. you can't be alone

A: send me to a nursing home then, I won't be alone

M: didn't I tell you to go before & you said no, now you want to go-what for? you need a man?

A: yeah, I need a man & so do you. I thought you were going to give me a great-grandson? you take to long
M: unless you are going to support us then I will have another kid and no, you are not going to a nursing home

A: give me two days in the home & then I'll die in peace

M: here we go again, you are not going to die cause now is not a good time

A: who are you? cause when I am ready I am out

M: you can't die now cause I'm busy {my cousin is laughing}, now really isn't a good time, I don't have a black suit/dress for the occasion, my birthday is next month

A: Happy Birthday then

M: not funny old lady, besides Christmas is coming & if you die you are going to ruin it for your first great-granddaughter. what kind of great-grandmother does that?

A: she'll be to busy opening presents to remember me anyway, two days in a home & I am gone

M: whatever, you probably meet a man & then want to stick around..did you put my name on the insurance, cause you can't leave me broke.

A: then put me in a home so I can find a few men.

Pumpkin Picking on Columbus' Birthday

So like Monday was a holiday & Lala has no school but I had to work. I dropped her off @ school & ask Leslie (afterschool teacher) where are they taking them today. She tells me that they are going pumpkin picking & that the parents are more then welcome to join so I decided to pay the $10.00 & play hooky from work-I mean hey, my Pooka wanted me to go & I wanted to go as well.. Haven't been done this in awhile.Getting on the bus brought back memories from my youth. From all the noise, to kids sitting up from their seats yelling over others head, to the sing along songs, laughter of jokes & even kids getting sick, hungry & having to pee & of course the long ass ride. As soon as we got there all the kids went running to the port-a-potty after that it was off to get wristbands then onto the hayrides to pick out pumpkins. The hayride was nice & scenic but my ass needed a massage as soon as we were done. We got to see a pig & goat race, had lunch, ate Kettle Korn, went into the hunted house, the kids got to paint their pumpkins & then the kids played in the park till it was time to go. All in all, it was a nice day & I would do it again because the look of thanks on Lala's was priceless & it was the first trip I had attended since she's been there.
pics. will be available @ a later date..will keep you posted.

A Day With the Dunn's

A Day With the Dunn's

Sunday after the family left, I had to rush home & get ready to go see some friends that came up from Maryland. Grasshoppa & her boyfriend {Bryan} were coming over to pick us up & take us to our friends' house. They were celebrating their son's 2nd Birthday & their daughter's Dedication. It was nice to spend time with the Dunn family.

Everyone had a good time, the food was great, the music was perfect {thanks to Recy's taste in excellent music} & her family was very welcoming.

We need to get together again...